Virgo Man Using You: 10 Clear Signs You’re Being Used!

Some of these signs will take a while to notice because it might just seem like a Virgo man is being his usual distant self at first.

A Virgo man takes a while to open up even when he’s not using you, but he should want to if he’s serious about you. If he won’t reveal anything about himself, that’s a red flag.

A Virgo man might constantly give mixed signals when he’s using you. He might refuse to take you out or introduce you to anyone in his life. He may only be available when he wants something.

1. He Never Opens Up

One of the signs a Virgo man is using you is that he will refuse to open up to you. He will never open up no matter how long you’re together or how much you try to bond with him.

He won’t open up immediately if you’ve just met a Virgo man. It will take time and effort to get him to open up. He’ll want to open up if he genuinely cares about you.

If you’ve been dating a Virgo man for months and he makes no effort to open up and allow you to get to know him better, be careful. He might legitimately not be ready, but it’s a red flag if he won’t open up after that long.

A Virgo man who is using you won’t want to open up. He won’t want to trust you or tell you his secrets. If he’s refusing to open up, talk to him. Let him know that this could ruin your relationship.

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2. He Gives Mixed Signals

Mixed signals are sometimes a sign a Virgo man is playing you. He might only act a certain way when he wants something from you, then return to acting cold, distant, or uninterested.

If your Virgo man warms up to you when he wants to ask a favor, then goes cold again as soon as he gets what he wants, he’s using you. He is sending mixed signals because he’s just trying to get what he wants.

Your Virgo man might send mixed signals by treating you differently depending on who’s around. He may be kind to you in private, then ignore you publicly.

A Virgo man might act like he doesn’t want to be seen with you, then insist you’re just imagining things and that he does care. If he does this, call him out. He’ll try to make things right if he’s not using you.

3. He Won’t Meet Your Friends

One of the signs a Virgo man is not serious about you is that he won’t meet your friends. This might be understandable if you’re in the early stages of dating. If you’ve been dating for months, this could be a red flag.

A Virgo man using you won’t want to meet your friends because he won’t want to incorporate himself into your life. He won’t be bothered to befriend the people who care about you because he doesn’t care about you.

Your Virgo man might always have an excuse for not meeting your friends. He may insist it’s too soon, even if it isn’t.

He might be worried about meeting your friends if he’s using you because they might see it better than you do. A Virgo man may also not want to waste his time because he doesn’t intend on sticking around.

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4. He’s Busy for No Reason

A Virgo man acting distant isn’t always a bad sign. It can be if he refuses to spend time with you, though. If your Virgo man is always busy for no apparent reason, he might be using you.

When a Virgo man is using you, he’ll only spend time with you when it’s convenient for him. He might only reach out when he wants something. He’ll make plans, but it will always be things he wants.

If your Virgo man always has excuses for not spending time with you, he might be using you. If he says he’s busy and doesn’t even bother saying why, that’s a red flag.

Your Virgo man might be too busy to attend your birthday party or do something for your anniversary. Even if something important happens in your life, or you genuinely need him, he’ll be nowhere to be found.

5. He Won’t Take You Out

If you’re in a relationship with a Virgo man, but he refuses to be seen with you in public, that’s a red flag. He might be using you if he won’t take you out anywhere.

A Virgo man who won’t take you out or doesn’t want to be seen with you might be having an affair. He may be dating other people, and he doesn’t want to run into the wrong person with you accidentally.

If your Virgo man only ever wants to hang out at home, talk to him. Even if he genuinely is a homebody and prefers to have dates one-on-one, he shouldn’t be opposed to going out to dinner now and then.

A Virgo man who is using you might not want to tell you why he won’t take you out. If he always seems to be coming up with excuses or says you’re making a big deal out of nothing, that’s a red flag.

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6. None of His Friends Know About You

In the early stages of dating a Virgo man, he might not tell his friends about you. He might not be comfortable telling everyone about you if you’ve only been on a few dates.

If you have been dating a Virgo man for months and none of his friends know about you, that’s a bad sign. That could mean that he doesn’t want them to know about you.

If a Virgo man claims to take your relationship seriously but he won’t introduce you to his friends, that’s a red flag. If nobody in his life knows you exist, he likely doesn’t intend to stick around.

When a Virgo man cares about you, he’ll introduce you to others he cares about. He’ll want his friends and family to know about you. If he doesn’t, that’s a sign your relationship won’t last.

7. He’s Not Supportive of You

If you’re seriously dating a Virgo man who is not supportive of you, that’s a bad sign. He might be using you, but he may also be a terrible partner.

A Virgo man who cares about you should support you. He should encourage you when you’re trying to reach a goal and motivate you when you feel like you can’t make your dreams a reality.

He should emotionally support you as well. When a Virgo man loves you, he’ll listen to you. He’ll be a shoulder to cry on and do what he can to make you feel better.

If your Virgo man is completely unsupportive, he might be using you. Even if he’s not, he is not being the partner that you deserve. He may legitimately not care about you or just be bad at showing it.

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8. He’s Excessively Critical

Being excessively critical is one of a Virgo man’s red flags. It’s common for Virgo men to be judgmental and critical. However, if a Virgo man cares about you, he should praise you and tone down the criticism.

A Virgo man who is using you might constantly criticize you. He might use his criticisms to try and get what he wants from you. He may also genuinely think these things about you.

When a Virgo man is using you, he won’t be as kind and compassionate as he would be if he cared about you. His criticisms will not come from a place of love. They’ll seem cruel and excessive.

If a Virgo man loves you, he’ll listen when you say his criticisms are too much. If he brushes you off, he might be using you.

9. He Never Talks About the Future

When a Virgo man is done with you for good, one of the signs will be that he stops talking about the future. If you’ve been dating your Virgo man for a while and he never discusses the future with you, he might be using you.

A Virgo man who is serious about you will see a future with you. He’ll want to plan vacations together. He will discuss the future with you, even if it’s just hypotheticals.

If your Virgo man refuses to talk about the future or make plans, he might not be serious about you. Even if he’s not using you, this is a sign that he doesn’t take your relationship as seriously as you do.

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10. He’s Never Available

When a Virgo man shuts you out completely and is never available, that’s a sign you’re being used. He needs to be a better partner if you can never get a hold of him, even in emergencies.

A Virgo man who is using you will be emotionally unavailable. He will shut you out and won’t listen when you want to discuss your feelings. He’ll brush you off if you want to discuss your relationship.

He won’t be physically available, either. Your Virgo man will only want to be around when he’s getting what he wants. If he’s not getting that, he’ll leave.